Rocking Rejection! Xx

March 23, 2018

  Last week I received a message from a friend asking if my positive psychology study could help her with a rejection she had received.  I paused for a while and looked out of the window at the surrounding countryside while my new puppy whimpered a bit in the back of the car on his…

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A Meaningful Life

March 16, 2018

  “Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’”. Victor Frankl was a survivor of several concentration camps and the father of logotherapy, a branch of therapy that looks to help people by focusing on the meaning of their lives.  The creation of this was his why.  He survived years…

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Spark Joy

July 19, 2017

      Over a year ago I was browsing in a bookshop and picked up Marie Kondo’s book “Spark Joy” to have a look at it.  I flicked through the pages on the neat tidying of clothes and ordered folding of things and put it back down again, certain that was all a bit…

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Mindset – Where we start is not where we end.

July 11, 2017

What if talent didn’t determine where your life would take you?  What if there was no such thing as failure?  What if those who believed they were brilliant actually struggled more than those for whom learning was a challenge?  According to Dr Carol S. Dweck in her book ” Mindset” that is quite possibly the…

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The Path

July 5, 2017

We live in an age of incredible freedom.  We know how to determine the direction our lives will take.  The truth of who we are lies within us.  These statements are false. Instead we are living in a state of constant flux, we don’t have full control of the reaction to our actions and who…

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The Chimp Paradox

March 7, 2017

“How are you?” “Fine,”  meaning fucked up, insecure, neurotic and emotional. It’s at these moments that I guess Prof Steve Peters would say we are being controlled by our chimp, our chimp being our emotional brain that can either drive us to succeed and be happy or dive under the duvet in the hope that…

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The Noise of Time

February 21, 2017

“Art is the whisper of history, heard above the noise of time.” This is the central theme of the novel by Julian Barnes exploring Shostakovich’s experience as a composer living in Soviet Russia.  He starts the novel waiting by the elevator with his suitcase, ready to be taken by Power to the Big House, from…

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When Breath Becomes Air

February 10, 2017

“You seek what life is in death, Now find it air that once was breath.”  Baron Brooke Fulke Greville   Thus starts Paul Kalanithi’s memoir where he questions what is the purpose of life in the face of death.  It is a human question.  We are blessed and cursed with a consciousness that leaves us at once…

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A Room of My Own

January 31, 2017

Virginia Woolf asserted that for a woman to create fiction she needed a room of her own and an income of £500 per year.  This would allow her the freedom to write what she wanted, what lived in her heart and her mind, in spite of society’s consideration that the products of these were largely…

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What if all we really had to do was be here now?

October 14, 2016
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